We’re listing sexual activities for a yes/no/maybe sheet in my Human Sexuality Counseling class and I learned about deepthroating. That’s where you get sexual gratification from leaking the pentagon papers.

Out with the old and in with the used.
MA-1 for sale
#Upgrayedd 
Out with the old and in with the used.
MA-1 for sale
#Upgrayedd 

Out with the old and in with the used.

MA-1 for sale

#Upgrayedd 

Journal #1 from January 30th, 2014 for a course on Multicultural Counseling

I’m a white, straight, tall, athletic middle-upper class male living in the United States.  I think it was about 3 years ago that I first heard the term “privilege” used in the way it is used in our multicultural discourse but it fit neatly into place with my understanding of multiculturalism I had gleaned studying literature and with my observations of the world around me.  I realize my privilege allows me to not need to worry about how my race, gender, or sexuality affects my daily interactions.  I realize that I cannot know exactly what it is like to exist in a way where my race or gender is a constant concern regarding how others interact with me.  I realize that I had the privilege to go to good elementary and high schools and that my race, gender and height were part of what conditioned me to believe I could do well.  While the accomplishments of my education are my own, my privilege had a profound effect on my access to education and the perceptions others held about me throughout my education, which in turn affects my perceptions about my own abilities (eg. as a white male, others anticipated my good math skills; as a tall, white male, others anticipated I was an articulate, insightful speaker).

            I have identified as a feminist since I was a teenager because I believe cultural expectations regarding gender are largely harmful and destructive (while I see them as harmful and destructive for men, I openly acknowledge that they are far more harmful and destructive to women and others who do not identify as men).  I use the term “largely” rather than “entirely” because some find guidance from gender expectations. But for those who do not fit into the narrow confines of gender constructs (and I believe the vast majority do not fit into those narrow confines), gender constructs are destructive and harmful.

            I have addressed multicultural issues with almost all of my clients.  I typically navigate it with some mild, self-deprecating humor.  In session, I’ve said, “how do you think our differences will affect our work together? I mean, you’re a gay black man who grew up in the South and I’m a white kid from the suburbs here.  How can I understand your experience?”  I’m not entirely sure I’ve been navigating it correctly – maybe being self-deprecating is the wrong approach.  My clients’ response has typically been to reassure me, “oh, I’m sure it will be fine” and “yes, if you miss anything, I’ll let you know.”

            I try to be an ally.  Elements of Culture in Counseling highlights that as a white man, other white men assume I hold the same misogynistic, homophobic, transphobic, and racist beliefs they do.  I try to call them out and counter it when I hear it (hell, I called out a stranger the other day for making racist remarks about Mexican-Americans while watching the State of the Union address).  As a wrestling coach, my students understood that some foul language wasn’t a problem but using racist, sexist, or homophobic slurs was.  I’m proud that there is a girl on my wrestling team who is held to the same high standards that I hold all my wrestlers to. She regularly outworks the boys and I’m grateful that she’s an example for the boys on the team.  I don’t expect a special pat on the back for being a white male into feminism and multiculturalism (the book calls this observance of “causes that [white men] could remain oblivious to”), but I will reserve the right to be proud of being an ally.

            I mentioned last week that in the study of Victorian literature I was exposed to the antithesis of multiculturalism.  That is, the Victorian-era belief that there is a clear cultural hierarchy with the upper-class Brits at the top and aboriginal tribes at the bottom.  The postmodern, multicultural hypothesis is that cultures cannot be ranked and that there is no one truth, no best, no absolute way of looking at things.  I see these as two extremes.  One is the extreme that there is a clear hierarchy while the other denies that cultures can be critiqued.  Sam Harris’ concept of the moral landscape is a philosophy I identify with and I believe it falls somewhere between these two extremes.  Just as we do not have a precise medical definition of what physical “health” is – we know it has something to do with not vomiting all the time and not being in constant, excruciating pain – we still have the concept of health.  So, just as we do not have a precise definition of what a healthy society is we can still know that it has something to do with particular conditions that allow for maximum human flourishing.  The concept of the moral landscape is the idea that there are a multitude of conditions that lead to human flourishing and that we can observe where the high and low points of human flourishing lie on that landscape of conditions.

The framework of the moral landscape moves away from the postmodern belief that truth is an untenable construct and yet I do not see it as going so far as saying that there is a clear cultural hierarchy.  I see the framework as allowing us to critique discrete cultural beliefs and practices that detract from greater human wellness. I believe there are clear examples of this like gender discrimination, racism, homophobia, and sectarian violence.  We are already critiquing specific cultural beliefs and practices with good effect.  We already address moral concepts like “slavery is wrong,” “beating your children is wrong,” and “attacking someone because you hate them for their race or sexuality is wrong” with legislation that affects material conditions.  And society is better for it.  Even though with a morally relativistic standpoint I may not be able to get at an absolute truth like “denying the agency and rights of others is wrong,” I can use good ideas like that as guiding principles to be able to make moral decisions, weighing conditions that lead to human flourishing.

And perhaps there are flaws of this argument that I am blinded to by my privilege.  Sam Harris is, after all, a straight white man living in the US so he may be blind to these spots as well.  But ideas stand apart from individuals.  I anticipate the argument that judging societal conditions will lead to a slippery slope of cultural hierarchies but I’m not certain that I accept that as more than a slippery slope fallacy.  I see continued cultural critique and alteration of societal conditions as necessary for improvement of the human condition into the next century.

Went to La Brea yesterday to pick up a belt I had shortened at Willie’s. Then I walked around by American Rag and saw Andrew Dryden eating at a cafe there. I’ve spoken to him before at H Lorenzo but it’s not like he knows me so I just did a double take and left him to his lunch.

edit to add:

Ended up at Sartorialoft where I spent an hour admiring their new Label Under Construction display. Really impressive technical knits done in an amazingly artistic way. Oliver at Sartorialoft really takes the time to be welcoming and tell you about the product and the people behind the labels - it’s always such a pleasure to go there and see what’s going on in their shop. It definitely turned me on to LUC’s work. Gonna read about LUC this afternoon.

This longcoat is a faded piece of glory.  Amazing fabric, both exterior and lining, pilling with age.  It’s filthy.  It desperately needs to be professionally cleaned.  I’ll take it tomorrow. While some seams are coming undone, that fix is a job my tailor typically does for free.

But it’s exactly what I was looking for.  Though the luxurious fabrics show far more years of wear than I expected, I think a good chemical bath and combing will restore their dignity.  The shoulders fit perfectly.  I’ll be taking it to my tailor to have the body and arms taken in to a slim fit.

Last month, I went to Saint Laurent on Rodeo to see the new stuff by Hedi Slimane. They showed me this longcoat, which was a Cashmere blend. It was a crepe fabric with an amazing, soft hand and a charming fuzziness around its slim, long, fitted structure. I don’t think this coat has been offered or pictured online anywhere but I think it was about $5500. The length of the coat with the slim arms and chest were very striking but the shoulders were far too narrow for me (about 17” when I need around an 18” shoulder). Oh yeah, and then there’s the astronomical, prohibitive price…

Browsing SuFu classifieds a few weeks later, I ran across the Hedi Slimane era Dior coat that I posted a pic of yesterday. So stoked to find a Hedi long coat almost exactly what I was looking for at a fraction of the price.  Amoretlabor declared that the coat I have coming comes with the heritage and skills of the military tailors that worked under Hedi at Dior rather than the less-mature group of Hedi’s friends that are with him now at Saint Laurent Paris. 

Should be getting the coat in the mail later today!!!! Last month, I went to Saint Laurent on Rodeo to see the new stuff by Hedi Slimane. They showed me this longcoat, which was a Cashmere blend. It was a crepe fabric with an amazing, soft hand and a charming fuzziness around its slim, long, fitted structure. I don’t think this coat has been offered or pictured online anywhere but I think it was about $5500. The length of the coat with the slim arms and chest were very striking but the shoulders were far too narrow for me (about 17” when I need around an 18” shoulder). Oh yeah, and then there’s the astronomical, prohibitive price…

Browsing SuFu classifieds a few weeks later, I ran across the Hedi Slimane era Dior coat that I posted a pic of yesterday. So stoked to find a Hedi long coat almost exactly what I was looking for at a fraction of the price.  Amoretlabor declared that the coat I have coming comes with the heritage and skills of the military tailors that worked under Hedi at Dior rather than the less-mature group of Hedi’s friends that are with him now at Saint Laurent Paris. 

Should be getting the coat in the mail later today!!!!

Last month, I went to Saint Laurent on Rodeo to see the new stuff by Hedi Slimane. They showed me this longcoat, which was a Cashmere blend. It was a crepe fabric with an amazing, soft hand and a charming fuzziness around its slim, long, fitted structure. I don’t think this coat has been offered or pictured online anywhere but I think it was about $5500. The length of the coat with the slim arms and chest were very striking but the shoulders were far too narrow for me (about 17” when I need around an 18” shoulder). Oh yeah, and then there’s the astronomical, prohibitive price…

Browsing SuFu classifieds a few weeks later, I ran across the Hedi Slimane era Dior coat that I posted a pic of yesterday. So stoked to find a Hedi long coat almost exactly what I was looking for at a fraction of the price. Amoretlabor declared that the coat I have coming comes with the heritage and skills of the military tailors that worked under Hedi at Dior rather than the less-mature group of Hedi’s friends that are with him now at Saint Laurent Paris.

Should be getting the coat in the mail later today!!!!

Neuromaencer

If they make a Neuromancer movie they should have Tatsuro Horikawa design the costumes. His dark, industrial world is so William Gibson… I love it.

This blog has changed.

I’m going to start talking about myself. I’m going to just blog.  

I had to change the format because I had it that way before so it’d be a seamless stream of images.  

I want to be able to have a conversation, and the new format should be more amenable for that.

Right now I’m chatting on skype with Amoretlabor, Humalien, Bakufedoin and Merz.  Cheers, you guys are a good time.

#recentpurchases

…still waiting for most of it to come in the mail. #recentpurchases

…still waiting for most of it to come in the mail. #recentpurchases

…still waiting for most of it to come in the mail. #recentpurchases

…still waiting for most of it to come in the mail.

#recentpurchases

…still waiting for most of it to come in the mail.

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